Friday, September 21, 2012

Struggling to Figure Out Who I Am

 The most difficult thing in life is to know yourself.
 - Thales

I've really struggled with today's topic. I've worried over how to get my point across clearly. What's here is my best attempt and saying what I'm feeling.

As women, we are very hard on ourselves.

We struggle with self-worth and self-confidence.

Usually the struggle is because we put too much stock in what others think about us.

I want to find a way to tell all of us to let go of what others think and embrace who we were made to be {That sounds so corny!}.

Think about it - if we knew who we were made to be and could embrace that unapologetically, wouldn't that be a good thing? Wouldn't it free us up from other people's opinions to be the best version of ourselves?

This concept does stem from one basic assumption - that each of us were created intentionally and uniquely. It's a key point. God made each and every one of us to be unique - if we were all the same, most of us would be redundant and unnecessary. God also created us they way we are on purpose. The traits and characteristics we have are for a reason.

Now working off that assumption, if we are intended to be unique, why do we want to be like everyone else? Why do we compare ourselves to other women? You know we all do it. But it doesn't make sense. It's like comparing a koala to an alligator and deciding that the koala doesn't measure up because it's not just like the alligator.

So how does knowing that we are all unique and created intentionally help me with my self-worth?

I think that question is best answered with a little bit of homework. I'm going to do it too and post my answers for you next week.
  1. List some of  your strengths (Yes, we all have some.) - What are you good at? What is awesome about you?
  2. List some of your weaknesses (We all have these too.) - What really needs work? What do you struggle with?
  3. List your personality traits - extrovert or introvert? pushy or passive? out front or behind the scenes? 
When you get stuck on any of the steps, ask someone who loves you and will be honest with you. Our goal is a sizable list in each category.

That's it for this post. Next week, I'll share my lists with you and suggest our next steps to dealing with the comparison trap and weight of other people's opinions.

How did it come across? Did I make any sense? You can tell me. Is there any chance that you will actually give the homework some thought? Or will you just wait to see what my lists are and go from there? You know by now that I genuinely care what you have to say. Thank you for humoring me as I worked through this issue.

Linking this post up with Calm My Crazy and Covered In Grace.


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