The most difficult thing in life is to know
yourself.
- Thales
So we covered who I’m not. Have you given any thought to who
you are not?
The next step is figuring out who we ARE. I’ve been working
on it. I still have a long way to go, but I’m making progress.
I am a wife. I’ve been married almost 15 years, and I still
like him. He is a really great guy. I guess I’ll refer to him as DH (dear
husband) since that's what other bloggers do.
- I wanted to come up with something catchy
for him like FM (favorite man)
or SM (soulmate), but I decided to conform. Yes,
I see the irony here. -
He’s not
perfect, but what we have is pretty special. I like being a wife – most of the
time. I’m not always good at it, but most days I try to get it right.
I’m a mom. DH and I have three sons (S1, S2, and S3) ranging
in ages from 10-5. They are great kids. Really. Not perfect, but really fun to
be around. I really do try to be a good mom to my boys. But I don’t always
succeed. I’m working on that too.
I’m a woman. I’m loud, pushy, and opinionated. I’m fiercely
loyal to those I love. I offer to help without thinking about the cost to me
and mine. That gets me in trouble a lot! I speak my mind – another thing that
gets me in trouble. I don’t like to operate within the rules. I know they are
there for a reason, but sometimes they just get in my way. I will open my house
to almost anyone at any time (more on that later). I’m a good listener and a
good empathizer. But I can’t stand stupid.
I’m a Christian. I believe in God, Jesus, and the Bible. I
believe in truth and love. I believe in God’s grace (undeserved, unearned favor
and kindness). I believe that God has a purpose in how I was designed and who I
was meant to be.
So I am learning who I am and who I am not. I’m trying to
let who God has made me to be guide my choices and priorities. I’m also working
on being ok when who I am and who others want me to be don’t line up. Sometimes
it’s still hard. Sometimes I wish I was “that woman” But I’m working on being
ok with being me.
How are you doing being you? Are you ok with who you are and
who you aren’t? Any tips with getting better at accepting who we are? I would
love to hear from you.
I love the blog, Dawn! And you know what? I think we're more alike than you know ;-) Because I am sooo not 'that woman' either. (I sit here writing this amidst piles of unfolded laundry and with a sink full of dishes that I will not touch until tomorrow!). My theory on life and friendships is this: I completely do not have my act together - you can take it or leave it. I love having friends over... so long as they love me despite my chaotic house! ;)
ReplyDeleteThanks for the encouragement, Jess. And I love that we can be so different and still have so much in common :-)
DeleteI’m a woman. I’m loud, pushy, and opinionated. I’m fiercely loyal to those I love. I offer to help without thinking about the cost to me and mine. That gets me in trouble a lot! I speak my mind – another thing that gets me in trouble. I don’t like to operate within the rules. I know they are there for a reason, but sometimes they just get in my way. I will open my house to almost anyone at any time (more on that later). I’m a good listener and a good empathizer. But I can’t stand stupid.
ReplyDeleteAre you sure you are not talking about me? This is me to a T!!!! HA!
I knew we were kindred spirits when I found your blog :-)
DeleteThis is great! I am on the same exact page as you! Great minds think alike!
ReplyDeleteThat's high praise from you. Thank you!
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