Monday, September 10, 2012

I've Been Thinking About Priorities.

The key is not to prioritize what's on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.
 - Stephen Covey

I'm back!

I took a blogging break for a while. You can read about that decision here. It wasn't a fun call to make, but it was the right one. My life needed me to be fully present for a bit. 

While I was away from my blog, I had time to think through some questions that had been bugging me. 

Where does blogging fit into my life? How do I get everything on my to-do list done? How do I carve out time for me and the things that matter to me?

I went around in circles and kept coming back to the idea of a filter - not for my words; that's a whole different post - for my life. If I make a filter of my priorities and pass everything through it, decisions could be easier and life might be simpler. 

So what are my priorities?

1) God - I want to get to know Him better and keep learning more about who He created me to be

2) Family - my husband and three boys matter to me. I desperately want to be the best wife and mother that I can be. 

3) Others - I want to be an encouragement to other women. Whether they are in my real life or my friends in cyber space, I want to be someone who inspires those around me to embrace who they are and live life to the fullest. 

Ok. Now I have my priorities clearly stated. What do I do with them?

Now I use them as a test for every option that crosses my path. 
  • Lunch duty at my kids' school? Passes through the filter. So I sign up. 
  • Helping a friend finish a major project with a looming deadline? That passes the test. I say yes. 
  • Helping to plan an event that I'm not interested in that doesn't reach out to women? Does not pass the test! I say no. 
[A side note here - there is nothing wrong with saying no. Sometimes we have to say no to those who want us to do something. It's ok. Don't feel guilty. Know what your priorities are. Know how much you and your family can handle. Then give the request a fair shake. If it doesn't pass the priorities filter, or if it would just be too much on your family, say no. And don't let anyone give you grief about it. Side note over.]
  • Joining the gym now that all my boys are in full day school? It will keep me healthy and sane and help me be the wife and mother I want to be. Passes the test. I say yes. 

I had to take my blogging break because my family needed me. My family comes before others, and my blog is for me and others. My filter of priorities made it an easy call. 

That doesn't mean I didn't miss you! I missed our interactions here, on Twitter, and on Facebook. I missed hearing your thoughts on what I have to say. I'm so happy to be back!

What are your priorities? They don't have to be the same as mine. Does everything in your life pass the filter right now? I love hearing what you have to say!

Linking this post with Covered In Grace's Monday Meet Up, and Things I Can't Say


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